The Gift of Disorientation

A couple things before we begin. For the past three months, this idea of disorientation has been at the forefront of my mind, because I feel it strongly every single day. I actually can’t shake it, so I wrote about it. The problem, though, is that I wrote this very post over two weeks ago…

On Living Life At A Distance // and what it means for our hurting world

The past year has been nothing short of a whirlwind. I don’t know that I’ve experienced so much emotion in such a short amount of time. After all, I did meet my now husband, dated long distance (…like, states away), got married, and moved to a foreign land in just one year. Great anticipation with…

“____” When the Chapter of Your Life Feels More like a Blank Page

I’m not going to lie, I’ve been staring at this blank page for weeks now, wondering what to write and what to say. And every night I sit down to this very space, nothing happens. It’s maybe one of the first times I’ve experienced such intense literary hollowness in this tangible of a way. Usually,…

“When you know, you know” More Words That Weren’t Helpful

More often than not, I’m a pretty quick decision maker. I don’t need much time or many resources to choose an option to move on with whatever it is that’s in front of me. It’s likely because I’m a feeler, making those moves based on intuition and sense, rather than by fact and logic. It…

“It’ll happen when you least expect it.” The Words That Weren’t Helpful

It doesn’t take too much time as an adult to learn that life really never moves out of the in-between. Much of our time as seasons come and go is spent asking ourselves, “What’s the in between I’m bridging now?” As far as I’m concerned, we’re there to stay. And I’m even more convinced that…

“Let the wedding planning begin.” Being Engaged in Engagement Season

Just over a year ago, I wrote about engagement season- about the joy and the ever-close grief – that time from my single self. Who knew that a handful of months later, I would be entering into the very season I wrote about, one from the engaged side. You can read more here. You’ve dated…

“Where do you see yourself in 5 years?” And Other Impossible Questions to Answer

It’s the actual worst question you could ask. Seriously. And yet, it’s proven that it’s a question that’s staying in job interviews, grad school applications, and get-to-know-you questions. This is a question that people are curious about almost as much as what you do for a living. We’re all wondering where we are heading, and…

“But I feel like I’m not doing anything.” On Patience and Waiting

I’m not good at waiting. I know this because I’m in the field of career services, and every personality assessment tells me I’m bad at it. My enneagram number is a 7, which I heard described in a podcast a couple weeks ago as someone with the “champagne of life flowing through their veins.” I’m an…

“I just gave up.” When Your Goals Take a Backseat

Someone asked me a couple of weeks ago, “Kristyn, what are you afraid of?” I stopped and chewed on that question for much longer than I really needed to because my answer was the epitome of why I didn’t want to answer. “I have a fear of failure.” And I didn’t want to speak those…

“I live life on the edge.” My Battle Between Life & Death

I remember the summer days at the pool; it’s where I spent so much of my childhood between swimming lessons, day care afternoon trips, and those warm evenings with not a care in the world. And one memory that really stands out to me is level 2 swimming lessons, which requires little ones to learn…

“I’ve moved 7 times in 7 years.” On What, Who, and Where to Call Home

Every time I go back to Wisconsin, I’m reminded of how many places I call home. I lived in my hometown for 18 years before I called another place my home across the state. Then I took it to a different state that I also now call home. I have homes scattered throughout the country,…

“Is that really the way I’m supposed to go?” On Trusting The Direction You’re Positioned

I’m someone who gives trust away far too easily. I more often than not operate under the philosophy that you have my trust until something happens where I have a reason not to trust you anymore. And that can come in pieces. I’ll trust you with this part or I’ll trust you to do this,…

“But I just don’t understand.” The Art of Navigating the Seasons

One of the strangest happenings I had to acclimate myself to living in Colorado is the intense weather swings. Top of the hour brings the hot sunshine, then give it all of about 10 minutes and Mother Nature could decide to stick you on the adventure of the day by giving you rain, then hail,…

“I definitely didn’t think it would turn out this way.” The Mirror Image of a Year’s End

It’s getting to that time of year that I start to really think about how much the past 365 days have held in those 24 hour blocks of time – the bright days, the painful moments, the confused parts, and the flashes of complete clarity and provision. Something about the holidays prompts reflecting, a settling…

“These are my people.” Why Who’s Around You Matters

I had been preparing for this past Saturday for months. Actually, let’s back up. I had been preparing for Saturday for the past year, since the last one of my favorite holidays to plan and to host: Friendsgiving. You’ve probably heard of this – basically the awkward “I’m not going home to see my family…