“What was that again?” Listening to the Stories We Tell

The Nike Run App reminded me at mile one how fast I was moving and how far I’d gone. It was just yesterday I decided to take a few minutes to hit the sidewalks like I had done so many times before that. And when I got to mile one, the thoughts rushed in. “What…

“But it just shouldn’t feel this way.” Letting What Matters Matter

I walked out of work today and I was caught in a moment of fall time bliss. The sun was just perfect at the 5:21pm hour. One by one, the leaves decided it was their turn to fall, only to find their crunchy selves under my feet. The sun was warm and the air was…

“Tell me about yourself.” On Thriving in Full, Authentic You

I remember it well. I remember the day I sat down at my hand-me-down kitchen table in my red-walled kitchen with the remnants of five other women scattered around. That was the day I was going to bust out my grad school applications and all of its many wonderful questions. It didn’t take long, though,…

“Please listen to me.” A Letter From My 50-Year-Old Self

Welcome. Welcome to the letter that might be the strangest letter you’ve ever read. You’re thinking to yourself, “She’s half that age. What on God’s green earth is she going to say?” Here’s the deal. We all have people from so many generations of our lives that we have watched and followed and learned from….

“They’re pretty much my family.” Life with Roommates

But first a preface. I’ve always had incredible roommates. And yes, ever since I was 18, I’ve had at least one other person to share my life with. Sometimes it was a very small apartment where we were living right on top of one another. Other times it was all my best friends living together….

“I thought I’d have it figured out by now.” Taking Hold of What’s Yours

We’ve all heard of the most popular acronym – FOMO. It’s that often crippling state of being that makes us think our own personal worlds will stop spinning if we end up being left out of the fun of life. It says we must know what’s happening around us at all times in order to…

“I thought I’d have it figured out by now.” On the Quarter Life Crisis

I have a confession to make. This idea of “I thought I’d have it figured out by now” has been running through my mind heavily over the past few weeks, and it’s not a coincidence. Yes, I’m normally a planner and someone who has things scheduled out weeks and even months in advance, but the…

“I thought I’d have it figured out by now.” Grieving What Could Have Been

“Grieving What Could Have Been” is part two of a series on the myth of having it all together. “Don’t should on yourself,” is one of my very favorite phrases. It consistently catches people off guard, which I think is exactly the point. The idea of the phrase is to help someone understand the expectations they…

“I thought I’d have it figured out by now.” Living Life Without Deadlines

We’re conditioned to love deadlines. And if we don’t love them, we certainly know how to operate within them. We’ve had at least thirteen years to learn the art of identifying and navigating deadlines. And if you take one look around, our world is obsessed with them. Entire industries hinge on deadlines. Tax day, for…

“I know exactly what I’m doing…I think.” On Living With Confidence

I was hanging out with my nephew a couple weekends ago, and at one point he looked me straight in the eye and said, “Kristyn, you know I’m shy.” And I had to laugh because sure, he’s shy around strangers and in situations he isn’t quite sure of. But ever since kindergarten started for him,…

“What if I would have…” The Choices We Make to Get to Today

Have you ever wondered where you’d be had you made some very particular life choices differently? Ever wonder what kind of office you’d be sitting in? Who your friends would be? What your daily rhythms would look like? Who you would be? If I could go back and do it over again knowing everything I…

“I don’t want to ruin your friend group.” Making Friends After College

Let’s just be very up front here and say that making friends as a 22-year-old or as a 42-year-old or as a 62-year-old is incredibly awkward. You wish you could pull out your Barbie with her perfect outfit and cool car with Ken sitting in the passenger seat to ask your newfound friend if she…

“I haven’t talked to her since high school.” Why it’s Difficult When People Grow

Isn’t it strange when you talk with a friend or colleague about an event that happened in 1996 and you have to refer to that as 20 years ago? Sure, you might have only been 6 years old, but the days were long and the memories were rich. And in those years to follow, you…

“I don’t do networking.” The Reality of the Most Necessary Job Search Trick

Spending my days and years in the career services landscape, I’ve picked up a few tricks on how to conduct a successful job search, how to make yourself stand out in a crowd, and how to get an employer to bite on that black and white piece of paper called your resume. And what I’ve…

“Let’s play phone tag until it works.” The Beauty of Long Distance Friendships

This article was originally published on Elite Daily as “3 Reasons You Keep Long Distance Friendships, Even Though You Grown Apart” on August 6, 2016. You can check it out here. I’m stranded in the largest terminal at the airport and I’ve run up and down the terminal countless times, stood in long customer service lines and…